I did my research. I tried and tested things that didn’t work ~

• Strategies from parenting books that only really worked short term (without the inner work I needed to really change things at my core)
• Natural supplements for anxiety and stress (which didn’t tackle the cause, only the symptoms)
• Advice from family, friends and social media quick fixes (that didn’t apply to my family set up, my lived experience or triggers from my childhood, or my son’s individual temperament)

Desperate for a solution, I returned to Inner Child Healing, which I had briefly visited in my own self development before I became a mum, BUT I found it profoundly different with my motherhood hat on. I went deeper. Like a detective, I snooped around in my childhood, and my family tree.

I finally got to the bottom of why I was tense, snappy, and on the brink of blowing up at my child, and the people around me, far too often (pretty much daily). And on top of that I began to understand myself better than ever before.

After decades of assuming ‘this was just me’, I discovered that my people-pleasing habits, lack of boundaries, refusal to accept help, and my strive for perfection (to name only a few) actually came from the way I was raised. THAT gave me a powerful drive, even more than before, to change things for my son – to protect him from developing those same ‘personality traits’.

I committed to making a change in our lives, and it worked ~

• I could see the difference in the way my son and I connected almost straight away.
• Our bond became stronger, so his independence and confidence grew from secure attachment.
• I felt grounded, calmer, and present instead of trying to escape the moment by doom scrolling or being ‘too busy’.
• My patience and tolerance grew quickly, which actually led to fewer outbursts from him.
• I built on my empathy with a new ability to see things from his point of view.
• I found new confidence in myself as a parent, and self-trust in my decision-making.
• I could tell he had a new level of trust in me – that I could keep him safe, emotionally.
• I became predictable – even if I snapped or blew up, I would quickly repair our connection.

Motherhood has been an incredible experience ever since, and it still amazes me every day that we’re moving through his childhood together – in a way that feels right for us, not what works for someone else. I can see the HUGE difference it’s making for my family.

The combination of learning how to parent with confidence, how to heal from my own childhood, and how to REALLY break the cycle (not just try to) has been so LIFE-CHANGING that I decided to retrain and pivot my coaching business to help other mothers like me.

If my story sounds anything like yours, I would love to help you too.